How to Get Her to Say "Yes"

Your goal is to get a "yes" from that beautiful girl when you ask her out for a first date. That's a pretty big yes you're looking for. How can you increase the odds of getting it? Start out with smaller yeses.

One of the hardest obstacles to overcome is the word "No." When someone speaks the word no, they have actual physiological responses that correspond to the word. Their senses become less sensitive. There are glandular, hormonal and muscular reactions that all tie together into an attitude of rejection.

You want to avoid noes at all costs. Start out with questions that you KNOW will elicit a yes answer. Yeses have the opposite effect on the body. They put the physical body into a mode of openness and acceptance. This is an attitude of "Yes" and that's where you want your budding new relationship to be.

Write out a list of fifteen questions you could ask a woman and be sure to get a yes answer. Her are a few to get you started:

"It's a lovely day, isn't it?"

"Is that "Joy to the World" on the mall's PA system?"

"Do you think it's important for children to exercise and play outside?"

Be sure you know the answer will be yes before you ask the question. The yes is the important thing. Also, intersperse your questions with some conversation. Talk about how warm the sun feels or what Christmas songs she likes. If you just ask fifteen or twenty yes questions in a row you'll sound ridiculous or worse, like an interrogator. The idea is just to get her saying yes.

In another post we talked about using open ended questions to draw your date out and make conversation. That's important, but right now we're just trying to get yeses. If you can do that and have a pleasant, relaxed conversation with lots of yeses, you'll be much more likely to get that yes when you ask her out. And who knows what kind of questions she answer yes to later on. Chances are you won't even have to ask.


Do you want to be light years ahead of your peers when it comes to women? Always remember that women are different from you and they want different things from a relationship. You want sex. That's okay. But she wants feelings, feelings that come from being close emotionally. Those feelings start with talking. Women love to talk. Come on, you and your friends have been complaining about it since grade school. What you didn't understand until now is, it's not a problem if you know how to use it to your advantage! Knowledge, my friend, is power, and this is a Golden Opportunity to personally visit "Heaven on Earth" on a regular basis!

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Seven Ways to Turn Women Off

Guys, you know we love you. We want to be with you and have a wonderful time. But there are those among you who just don't get it. Please let me help you become better dates and better lovers. There are things guys have done on dates with me that have absolutely turned me off. Believe me, the expression above is not one you want to see on your date's face. If you should see it, you may have done one of the following:


1) You were late. Sure, you might show up on time and have to wait a few minutes for your date to get ready. You, on the other hand, must be on time. Not twenty minute early, on time. When a man arrives late it means he didn't care enough to make the effort. When a woman is late it means she cared enough to take the extra time. It might not be fair, but it's the way of the world.


2) You're dressed like a slob. It really doesn't take much to look nice. Drooping jeans are trendy in some circles if you're a kid or a convict, but is that the image you want to convey? Track suits are appropriate at the gym. Are you going to the gym? Gold chains? Maybe something small and tasteful, but don't over do it. The same goes for rings and other jewelry. It really doesn't take much to look nice, just wear something that's neat, clean and appropriate for the occasion.


3) You try to cover your body odor with cologne. It doesn't work, guys. There are cultures in Europe and the Middle East where men are pretty casual about bathing. That's not here. We'll make you a deal, you bath before dates and we'll shave under our arms.





4) You check out other women in the area. Do I really have to say it? You're with someone already. You probably went to a lot of trouble to get this date in the first place. If you'd rather be with someone else, go and ask them. We don't care how low her neckline is or if her skirt doesn't cover her panties, pay attention to us.


5) You never make eye contact. This isn't exactly the same as paying attention, but the two do go hand in hand. I once went out with a man who did not look up from his plate once during dinner. He even spoke to our waitress with his head bent over. Even if the FBI had questioned me, I could only describe the top of the man’s head. It was not a successful date.


6) You don't use even basic good manners. No one expects you to know everything Emily Post has written, but basic courtesy is always in your best interest. Hold doors open including the car door. Don’t talk with your mouth full or wolf down your food like a feral dog. Do not, I repeat, do not belch just before leaning in for a kiss!




7) You don't read the signs for that final moment. You've probably thought about it all day long: should you try for the good-night kiss? Has she reached out to touch you at all during the evening? Did she grab a mint or gum when leaving the restaurant? Is she staring at your mouth? Then kiss her, you fool! Lean in, gently kiss her and see what develops. And after you pull back, keep enough presence of mind to actually ask for a second date before you go floating away.


Got all that? Well there's lots more. For example, number seven about reading the signs. How would you like to be able to read her body language and have ultimate power by picking up on what she's thinking but not saying. Do you want to know what to look for and how you can tell, without even talking, if she's up for it or not.


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Get women to pick you up. Once you have learned how to get rid of those quirks and foolish frolics that put women off, you will in fact be able to attract women and make them chat you up and even ask you for the date. How great will it be when some girl is working hard to get you instead of the other way around for once? Great!


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Bill Wants his Girlfriend Back

Bill was all broken up when Karen told him she needed her "space". Karen said that she still cared for him but didn’t want to date exclusively any more.

How can Bill get back together with ex Karen? Should he call her and text him? Show up at the Christmas party and flirt with her friends? Ignore her completely?

No, no and no. Instead, he should listen to her.

She says that he loves him but that he needs space. This sounds like a cliché, but the truth is that sometimes when people use this line they mean it.

There are times when a relationship just gets ahead of a person. They are not ready for things to be moving so quickly. That doesn’t necessarily mean that they don’t love their ex. In fact, they might just be overwhelmed and want to take a step back.

Let's assume this is the case and take a look at the devastating things that can happen if you handle the situation badly.

For instance, if Bill were to endlessly pursue Karen with phone calls, emails and texts, he wouldn’t be giving her the space she needed to get think things out. Letters, gifts, and singing songs under her window late at night would be equally bad, not to mention pathetic.

One of bill's friends suggested that he start flirting with all of Karen’s friends to make her jealous. This is a common misconception because it is assums that women will want what other women have. The problem is that by playing games now, Bill would be jeopardizing his relationship in the future. What would probably happen is that Karen would just be angry at Bill and push him even further away.

Another option Bill considered was just ignoring her altogether. This is understandable because Bill was so hurt by Karen’s rejection, he wanted to punish her in turn.

Now, if he is open and receptive but not pushy when they meet in social situations that are not contrived, he'll show Karen what a wonderful man and wonderful human being he is. He becomes someone that she wants to spend time with. She has had a chance to see him at his best.

Bill has a number of options if he wants to get back together with Karen. His best option is simply to listen to her. She’s said she needs space. Then Bill should give it to her. He should let Karen have the opportunity to decide whether to get back together.

I think in the end Karen will come back to Bill and she’ll be ready to take the relationship to the next level. If Bill plays his cards right, their relationship will be stronger than ever.

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This Guy Did it Right

Hey, Guys! Last night I was out with a few girlfriends having drinks at the Four Seasons. It's all decorated for the holidays and everyone was in a terrific mood. There were four of us and as usual, several men tried to buy our drinks and join us.

A pleasant but plain looking fellow bought a drink for my friend, Jennifer, and sat down. Now, we're used to this. A guy will buy a drink for one of us, sometimes a round for all of us, and think this is his ticket to sit and tell us how wonderful he is, what a hot shot banker or lawyer he is and what kind of BMW or Lexus he drives. Not Stan. Stan politely introduced himself to all of us and then asked Jennifer what she liked to do on her days off.

Well, Jennifer's passion is tennis. When she's not working on a modeling job, she's playing tennis and she's really very good. While most guys would ask about being a model, Stan didn't. To Jennifer modeling is work, just to pay the bills. Instead he asked her if she ever played in tournaments. Jen talked for an hour about some of the places she's traveled to for tournaments and about some of the people she met.

Stan sat and nodded occasionally. He'd smile when she got excited about something and sometimes ask another question. During that hour Stan probably didn't speak more than fifty words altogether while Jennifer jabbered away about tennis. He was polite to the rest of us but gave all his attention to her.

This morning after Stan had gone home, Jennifer called me to say what a great guy he was. Do you know she said he was one of the best conversationalists she'd ever met? This is the guy who hardly spoke at all.

Charles W. Elliot was once the president of Harvard. He gave a lecture on business once and said, "There is no mystery about successful business intercourse... Exclusive attention to the person who is speaking to you is very important. Nothing else is so flattering as that."

Stan has learned that listening isn't important only in business intercourse. It can improve your chances of success in other areas as well. Believe me, women love to talk. Be a good listener.



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The Magic Word

There is one magic word that will cause any woman to like you more each time you use it. This one word will evoke feelings of warmth and affection the more you use it.

There are three reasons men don't use this word. There's really no excuse for not using it you meet women, but here are the three reasons:

1. They don't know the word. Okay, you can get away with this once. After that you risk looking like a fool for not knowing. Learn the word.
2. They forget the word. It's truly amazing how many a man will learn the word and then forget it. Remember this word and you will have an in with women you haven't seen in years. Imagine you're walking down a busy street and you bump into an attractive woman you met, say, six months ago briefly at a party. You say the word and her eyes brighten, her whole face lights up with the pleasure of hearing you use this one word. Wouldn't a word like that be worth remembering? Remember the word.
   
3. They don't comprehend the power of the word. This is the real reason so many men don't use the word. They know the word but they haven't recognized what it can do for them. They're thinking from their own point of view. They don't know what women want. They don't realize how much women want to hear them use the magic word. Use the word.

Let me tell you a little story to demonstrate the power of the word. There was a man named Bill who worked at a Xerox plant in Webster, N.Y. Every day he had lunch in the plant cafeteria and was served by a grouchy woman who weighed out the ham for his sandwich, put in one leaf of lettuce and a few measly potato chips. She was the same everyday with never a smile.

One day, when Bill got to the front of the line, he uttered the magic word that no one else in line ever used. As soon as the word left his lips, the lunch lady's demeanor changed from night to day. Her face lit up and she forgot the scale for the ham. Bill got three leaves of lettuce and the pile of chips overflowed the plate.

No, the word wasn't "please", though it's always good to be polite. The word, the magic word that made this woman's day, was "Bernice." You see, that was her name.

To any woman, the sweetest sound it the world is the sound of her own name. It's the one thing in the world that is hers and hers alone. It sets her apart and makes her unique in the universe. Learn it, remember it and use it to evoke feelings of friendliness, affection and eventually passion in the women you meet.

Now, you might want to learn how to meet women who are not elderly lunch ladies, but take it from me, the principle works with all women from the waitress to the fashion model. Try it with the next woman you meet. Learn her name, remember it and use it.

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Meet Miss Right

Do you know that there are men out there who have trouble meeting girls? It's a fact. And judging by the statistics, looking at pure numbers, you might be one of them.

Now, I don't want to get personal right away. I may be mistaken about you. If that's the case, I apologize. But if you are have trouble meeting girls or talking to them or making dates or becoming, um, intimate with them, I can help.

In the coming weeks, I'll share my secrets with you, a woman's secrets about how you, a man, can endear yourself to women you meet. It's really not that hard to get close to a woman, but you have to know what she wants! Not what you want, not what you think she wants, but what she really wants from a man.

That's where I come in. Think of me as your big sister, the one you go to when you need a woman's point of view. We'll delve into subjects that to some men come naturally but to many others are a murky swamp, dark and confusing. We'll have a chance to discuss:

• Being ready to meet women at any time
• Where to meet quality women
• How to strike up a conversation
• How to know when to ask for a date
• Where to go on a first date
• How to know when she's ready to be kissed
• How to know when she ready for more

Stop by as often as you like. My door is always open. Just don't be peeking in while I'm dressing. You wouldn't do that to your sister, would you?

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