Guys, you know we love you. We want to be with you and have a wonderful time. But there are those among you who just don't get it. Please let me help you become better dates and better lovers. There are things guys have done on dates with me that have absolutely turned me off. Believe me, the expression above is not one you want to see on your date's face. If you should see it, you may have done one of the following:1) You were late. Sure, you might show up on time and have to wait a few minutes for your date to get ready. You, on the other hand, must be on time. Not twenty minute early, on time. When a man arrives late it means he didn't care enough to make the effort. When a woman is late it means she cared enough to take the extra time. It might not be fair, but it's the way of the world.
2) You're dressed like a slob. It really doesn't take much to look nice. Drooping jeans are trendy in some circles if you're a kid or a convict, but is that the image you want to convey? Track suits are appropriate at the gym. Are you going to the gym? Gold chains? Maybe something small and tasteful, but don't over do it. The same goes for rings and other jewelry. It really doesn't take much to look nice, just wear something that's neat, clean and appropriate for the occasion.
3) You try to cover your body odor with cologne. It doesn't work, guys. There are cultures in Europe and the Middle East where men are pretty casual about bathing. That's not here. We'll make you a deal, you bath before dates and we'll shave under our arms.
4) You check out other women in the area. Do I really have to say it? You're with someone already. You probably went to a lot of trouble to get this date in the first place. If you'd rather be with someone else, go and ask them. We don't care how low her neckline is or if her skirt doesn't cover her panties, pay attention to us.
5) You never make eye contact. This isn't exactly the same as paying attention, but the two do go hand in hand. I once went out with a man who did not look up from his plate once during dinner. He even spoke to our waitress with his head bent over. Even if the FBI had questioned me, I could only describe the top of the man’s head. It was not a successful date.
6) You don't use even basic good manners. No one expects you to know everything Emily Post has written, but basic courtesy is always in your best interest. Hold doors open including the car door. Don’t talk with your mouth full or wolf down your food like a feral dog. Do not, I repeat, do not belch just before leaning in for a kiss!
7) You don't read the signs for that final moment. You've probably thought about it all day long: should you try for the good-night kiss? Has she reached out to touch you at all during the evening? Did she grab a mint or gum when leaving the restaurant? Is she staring at your mouth? Then kiss her, you fool! Lean in, gently kiss her and see what develops. And after you pull back, keep enough presence of mind to actually ask for a second date before you go floating away.
Got all that? Well there's lots more. For example, number seven about reading the signs. How would you like to be able to read her body language and have ultimate power by picking up on what she's thinking but not saying. Do you want to know what to look for and how you can tell, without even talking, if she's up for it or not.
You can find it all in the only dating and pickup guide written by a woman for men: Be the Guy Who Gets the Girl.
Get women to pick you up. Once you have learned how to get rid of those quirks and foolish frolics that put women off, you will in fact be able to attract women and make them chat you up and even ask you for the date. How great will it be when some girl is working hard to get you instead of the other way around for once? Great!
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