Your goal is to get a "yes" from that beautiful girl when you ask her out for a first date. That's a pretty big yes you're looking for. How can you increase the odds of getting it? Start out with smaller yeses.
One of the hardest obstacles to overcome is the word "No." When someone speaks the word no, they have actual physiological responses that correspond to the word. Their senses become less sensitive. There are glandular, hormonal and muscular reactions that all tie together into an attitude of rejection.
You want to avoid noes at all costs. Start out with questions that you KNOW will elicit a yes answer. Yeses have the opposite effect on the body. They put the physical body into a mode of openness and acceptance. This is an attitude of "Yes" and that's where you want your budding new relationship to be.
Write out a list of fifteen questions you could ask a woman and be sure to get a yes answer. Her are a few to get you started:
"It's a lovely day, isn't it?"
"Is that "Joy to the World" on the mall's PA system?"
"Do you think it's important for children to exercise and play outside?"
Be sure you know the answer will be yes before you ask the question. The yes is the important thing. Also, intersperse your questions with some conversation. Talk about how warm the sun feels or what Christmas songs she likes. If you just ask fifteen or twenty yes questions in a row you'll sound ridiculous or worse, like an interrogator. The idea is just to get her saying yes.
In another post we talked about using open ended questions to draw your date out and make conversation. That's important, but right now we're just trying to get yeses. If you can do that and have a pleasant, relaxed conversation with lots of yeses, you'll be much more likely to get that yes when you ask her out. And who knows what kind of questions she answer yes to later on. Chances are you won't even have to ask.
Do you want to be light years ahead of your peers when it comes to women? Always remember that women are different from you and they want different things from a relationship. You want sex. That's okay. But she wants feelings, feelings that come from being close emotionally. Those feelings start with talking. Women love to talk. Come on, you and your friends have been complaining about it since grade school. What you didn't understand until now is, it's not a problem if you know how to use it to your advantage! Knowledge, my friend, is power, and this is a Golden Opportunity to personally visit "Heaven on Earth" on a regular basis!
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